South Hadley High School Faculty should be Jailed

When the faculty of a school lets bullying happen to the extent that it did in this case, they should be Jailed! Incompetence is not an excuse, ever, by anyone, to not at least seek help and get suggestions on how to handle a situation that could escalate into violence.

Apparently what had happened was the students began to pick on a girl because of a failed romance with a popular boy in the school. The group of juvenile delinquents harassed the girl to the point of taking her own life because of the torment she had been going through for months.

Now the prosecutor, has several of the bullies up on some serious charges which they indeed should be.

Northwestern District Attorney Elizabeth Scheibel announced the charges and to many peoples amazement, they didn’t include not one single charge brought against any of the faculty at the school or in the ruling board of education for the school district.

Scheibel apparently stated that no charges were being sought against the faculty because they had “a lack of understanding of harassment associated with teen dating relationships,” and the school’s code of conduct was interpreted and enforced in an “inconsistent” manner. Meaning the faculty failed to follow through on rule enforcement and discipline in many other instances as well.

Then answer me this, Why the hell are those people allowed to run and fill critical positions at a high school, if they are not educated enough to perform the job duties that go along with the positions!

Like I said before, Ignorance is not an excuse! EVER! Tell any judge you didn’t know the law and listen to what they tell you oh sad unknowing individual. I will add further that whoever the charging prosecutor may be, they are as guilty of the same negligence and need to also spend a few good years behind bars for not charging the faculty, all the way up to Gus Sayer the school Superintendent. (Maybe a few of them are related some how or something? Someone should check into that!)

The students acted wrongly and should all be tried, but the administration at the school failed to act in prevention of what they were informed was happening and should equally be tried as well, because their lack of action contributed directly to the girls death.

Apparently according to Massachusetts representative John Scibak, there is a Bully Awareness bill being worked on there, but he  didn’t mention anything about investigating why the adults involved aren’t being brought up on charges. All he basically commented to, was that they should possibly be reprimanded for their failures to prevent this tragic act of bullying from taking place. Why isn’t anyone going after the acting adults in this case? What the hell is being covered up in that state!

If that county keeps these people in the school system, there’s a lot that we as parents won’t tolerate and that would definitely be a major one, because that girl could have been any one of our children! That kind of ignorance of individuals in administrative positions won’t be tolerated, for the safety of all of the kids!

Students and parents alike, must take a stand to never let this happen again, and see this through or else the next individual taking their life could hit closer to home!
At-least, Do what’s right Now for Phoebe Prince.

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http://news.yahoo.com/video/us-15749625/school-bullies-indicted-18886971

Buncombe County, NC. Teacher is a Loser

In Buncombe County, North Carolina, if you attend the Enka Middle School, then you better get ready for bullying of a whole new level from teacher, Rex Roland.

It seems that he hasn’t learned, that his role is to educate and nurture the students, to bring out the best he can in each and every one and treat them as if they were real human beings.

He writes little derogatory comments on your papers before he passes them back and has been writing these comments as a way to “Relate” with the students.

He has been writing things like this; “-20% FOR BEING A LOSER” and it was double underlined to top it off.

When I once asked a teacher a question that had already been asked and got a derogatory answer back,  no longer speaking to teachers became my own way of showing that the teachers weren’t worth my time. I was told that “I had asked a stupid question because that question had already been asked once”.

Sorry, I must have missed it, I thought to myself as I sat down humiliated, with the 2nd grade class laughing and no real answer given. Right then I decided  never to talk to another teacher again unless made too, and I never did after that, until college! Up to that point, I had looked up to teachers as being the most smartest and caring people on the face of the earth, other than my parents, but the mental anguish from her reply had hurt me deeply.

Most children look up to teachers as being next to their parents, yours do also, because we tell them directly to do what the teacher says and to pay attention to the teacher, and with assertiveness while doing so.

But comments like he is making, are the kind of things that can hurt a child deeply, and for a long long time to boot.

Apparently this has been going on for some time now, with the principal only being able to stop it for a short period, but it has started back again.

The Buncombe county school district says it’s a personnel matter that is being investigated. What a crock of bunk.

If this teacher is not reprimanded hard, for his derogatory and mentally debilitating comments towards young children, then he is getting away with a crime more than bullying and we should pray that he would give up teaching, so as to never hurt the mental well being of another child ever again.

As parents, we place our childrens physical and mental well being in the hands of individuals we don’t know and if a bad one like Rex Roland slips into the system and is allowed to go on hurting children like he is, than we are opening up the school system for other forms of abuse and bullying that we as parents won’t stand for either!

I hope that HER PARENTS LOOK INTO A CLASS ACTION LAW SUIT AGAINST THE COUNTY, BECAUSE IT APPEARS THAT BUNCOMBE COUNTY HAS FORGOTTEN JUST WHAT INDIVIDUAL RIGHTS OUR CHILDREN ARE ENTITLED TOO! And the girl definitely has a case, and it has been allowed to happen repetitively now.

As for the parents who don’t think there is anything wrong with that type of commenting, just think back when you were told something bad, after expecting something good. It hurt you didn’t it? Well it’s time to step up and back the poor girl as she should be, or maybe the next bad note will be directed towards your kid. Then how will your child feel?

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Jammie’s in Public! Whats up with That?

In the doctors office, in the stores, at the movies, in the mall, what the heck is going on with that? I’m not talking about teenagers either, although the teens are bad for it. I’m talking about the adults walking around in public like that.

Maybe the teens have an excuse because they are teens, but the only excuse I can think of for the adults is just plain laziness and nothing else.

What is the message they are trying to send to everyone, by being an adult out in public with their pajamas on. Are they telling us they would rather be sleeping, are they lazy, are they slutty, are they trying to pick up younger people? Most of them seem to be women, but there are some men doing it also.

Just what does it mean and why are so many more people doing it these days.

It may be because it’s more comfortable for them, but it really doesn’t look that neat or presentable. Unless they have a medical need, it must just be pure laziness as to why they do it.

What ever happened to having a little pride in your appearance and what kind of example is it setting for our kids. When a jogger dons a jogging outfit and running shoes, he is dressed comfortably and neatly for exercising and for going outside. Jammie’s are meant for bed and bed is inside not outside unless you are camping.

There should be laws against wearing your pajamas in public unless you are a real true kid, or you have a medical reason and are able to prove it.

What’s next after the pajamas, Lovers Lane types of night-ware or going out in your undies!

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Children, How old is old enough?

I caught wind of a new thing going around, where you let your kids run and play outside today, the way kids used to do in the 60′s and 70′s, when we were raised. I have not read enough about this concept they are suggesting called “Free Range Kids”, to actually comment on their ideas of giving children the same running room that kids from “back in the day” were given, but I can comment from my own life and parenting experience.

I have lived in both days, then and now. So when I heard of parents raising the kids now, the way they used to be raised, it just scared the dittle out of me, to put it nicely.

I’ve raised my kids from the late 80′s to now and why anyone would think of acting the old way with their kids, is beyond me. Oh sure, there are parents that do let their kids have the freedom we had as kids and those kids come home just fine every night, no worse for the wear and grow up OK. Then there are others who have been sorry that they did. Living with the consequences for the rest of their lives, daily.

There are more parents now that are in the sorry category than ever before and it’s not because there are more kids. It’s because there are more people out there and more things that can happen to children, than ever before. Lets face it, the world is a much busier place than twenty or thirty years ago and more can and does happen.

We used to go out and the worst thing you would hear of, is a child being accidentally hit by a car, or some kind of an accident where the kid got hurt while playing without supervision, and that’s that. Nothing More.

The world was different then and it wasn’t neglectful to let your kids go out when they asked, not knowing where or who they would be with, or what they would be into. Life was a lot slower then, like the old TV shows depict and there were more concerned people, who did the right thing by looking out for kids, even if they weren’t theirs. That level of general concern, just isn’t there any more, like it used to be. Lets face it. We all know it’s true, because we rarely even know who our own neighbors are anymore. Back then, mom not only knew all the neighbors on the block, but most of the people in the neighborhood. People used to associate more and in fewer places, so most everyone knew of the others they should beware of. It was a built in safety net, that as kids we didn’t know was even there, but as parents we should realize, that the built in safety net longer exists in most communities in America.

Not only have the kids changed, but society has changed as well. Take a look at all the laws we have now regarding children and their safety. Most were developed for good reason and not just because of a few “bad eggs” either.

Sure, I believe in children having as much room to grow and to experiment with things as much as possible. Kids seem to experience things at their own pace back then and sometimes sooner than they should have. So did my kids have the right to know the feeling of having their first Red Rider BB gun like I did and have the right to shoot their eye out? No, and not because I didn’t want them to shoot their eye out, but the laws have changed in the cities and now it is illegal to discharge any gun, BB or otherwise, within the city limits. So they had to experience a different but similar event. That being when they were old enough by law and by my parental judgment, to learn about a gun, they were taught everything they need to know. Then they got the experience of dad taking them to the range, to shoot up some targets and not shoot up the neighbors garage like we did. We got spanked for that and you can’t do that now either.

Now there are more good reasons, why we should require our kids to be old enough, to do certain things. Things are a little different now and for good reason. Laws have changed, societies pace has changed, and people, even parents have changed and we have a lot of people and issues to deal with, beyond what’s best for everybody and not just the kids.

When children are old enough to handle anything they may come across, for their current age and when we as parents feel they are truly ready, then they will be allowed to live out the experiences we did, going by the parents determination of what they are ready for and not theirs and they will be safer because of it. That’s true parenting for the times we are living in now.

However, there still must be the diligence of the parent to set limitations, rules and boundaries that the kids will have to adhere to, which will be expanded as we feel they are ready, not them. We have to do this for their own safety. We now live in a society where you have to look out for yourself, because no one is looking out for you, and children are not always able to make the right choices, even when they have been taught. That issue has been proven by more local news stations, than you have sox.

I think that parents had a more open playing field when it came to raising kids back then, versus what parents have to take into consideration now days. They were great parents and were able to give the kids more freedom than we allow our kids today, but don’t despair. The kids of today will grow up in their own time, but at a rate that we as parents choose, that’s safe for our own children. They will still get to experience all of the things that we did, only in a different manner and time frame in their lives, that’s all. That’s not so bad now after all, is it. Wouldn’t it be better to err on the side of over protection, than to suffer on the side of under protection.

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Now look at just one story from 27 years ago, that happened to the best of parents, then go give your kids Free Range, because It’s your choice for you to make for them, as a parent. Not theirs’.

HELP STOP SWINE FLU, MOM SAID WASH YOUR HANDS, AND USE SOAP

Well the Swine Flu has returned from its last romp back in the 70′s. This time it looks as if it is going to go big. Take it serious but there’s no need for panic. We just have to follow the recommendations they have set forth to help keep it from spreading real bad and maybe it will be beat. But if you do become sick, see a doctor as soon as you can.

Also, You can NOT get Swine flu from eating Pork. So pass me the bacon, please.

Now here are some easy steps, to help keep you from getting sick.

• Use hand soap when washing your hands.
• Wash your hands.
• Keep away from anyone who appears ill, as much as possible.
• Keep away from crowded places, as much as possible.
• Wash Your Hands.
  
• Keep from spreading germs, cover your mouth and nose when you cough or sneeze.
• Keep your hands off your face and out of your mouth, ears, eyes and nose as much as possible.
• Wash Your Hands.
• If you are sick, don’t go out. This is definitely a problem, because most people have to work, but use sick days if you have them.
• Keep Washing Your Hands!

Now I don’t think there is a mom in America, that hasn’t told her kids to Wash Your Hands, and Use Soap!!

So listen to our moms and Do It!

Now, read on and enjoy. (Feel free to post this, where you think it will help.)

I’m Throwing in the Old Towel.

That’s right, we all need to throw in the old towel just a little more often. You know, after we answer that time-honored call from Mother Nature, please remember to throw in the old towel. We were all guilty as kids and we all know it.

So what’s our problem now? Oh I know, the doors don’t have those magic automatic open thingys, that’s the reason.

You see, after we use that magic toilet with the magical flusher, then wash our hands in a sink where the water knows we are there, adding soap to the process by waving our hands below a little box on the wall, then step over and wave them again like a magic wand,  Wahlaa, out comes the towel, then I guess it’s time we give up the magic act, because for the final trick we get to the door and yell, Open Saysamee, but it doesn’t open!

This leaves us with the only option for our great escape, which is to grab the handle. Ya you know, the dreaded handle that thousands have touched before you and you know for a fact, that they didn’t use the old towel.

Hey wait a minute I’ve got an idea. Skip the automatic door thingy, but have two trash cans, one inside the door, one outside, that way we can finish the show. Now when the dreaded handle stands between us and the Grand Finale, we can use the old towel after drying our hands, to grab the handle and Maggicoo, We are on the outside looking in!

But most of all, now we have somewhere to throw, the old towel! Keeping Clean and Washing Our Hands Can be Magical! and Fun!

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MOTHERS CORNER – MOM TO MOM

teen mom 48 said…

What does everybody think about those tracking devices you can put on your teens car, so you can look at the computer and see where they are? What about those at home drug tests. My concern is that they will actually drive a spike between the parents and teens and they will only pull away or retaliate further. Any comments?